Family

This title makes me chuckle, and I felt that it was befitting.

Let me try to somewhat explain. I have given-up fast food. Specifically fast food burgers, sandwiches and fries. I also no longer drink pop. (I refuse to call it soda, btw.) A couple of months ago, I was on a road trip. I failed to plan, and was stuck, in the middle of nowhere with nothing to eat. So I had to eat some fast food. Well, I knew that I hadn’t had fast food in months, and I also knew that I was starving, and really didn’t have too many alternatives on the highway when it came to eating.

Remember, this blog is about LOVE. I believe that the best way to attract a mate-or people- to you, is by exhibiting how IN LOVE you are with yourself. When we eat healthy, we show that we love and respect our bodies. Those around you understand that this is a vital part of your life, and they know not to disrespect you, because YOU don’t disrespect you. It’s quite simple.

Well, back to the junior Whopper. I ate the Whopper. Tore that thing up, chile. It was good; lettuce, tomato, onions, mayo, ketchup, and whatever that meat is. Anyway, that thing was good.
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I’m a Jersey kid born and raised, but my family is from a small town in North Carolina called Stokes.

It always felt good turning down my grandparents road where cell phones barely worked, and the conversation were better than any show on TV. Well some years ago i was riding with my grandma and we passed through Robersonville, NC. Growing up I would see the signs for this town and thought how cool it was that my last name was in a town. Until that day i really never thought much about it. That is until my grandma pointed at this big old white house and said “that’s the old Roberson house.”

Right then and there it hit me. This was the grounds where my ancestors were slaves. And a chance for me to collect as much information about my limited family history.
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January 18, 2010 is the National Martin Luther King, jr holiday. At the President’s request, let’s celebrate this holiday as a day of service to our own communities. To find a project check www.Serve.gov

Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is: what are you doing for others?”

On January 19, 2009, fueled by President Obama’s national call to service, a record number of Americans turned out to honor Dr. King by helping their neighbors and communities. The 2009 King Day of Service was the largest in history, with more than one million volunteers serving on 13,000 projects taking place in all 50 states. Participation in the King Day of Service has grown every year since 1994, when Congress designated the King Holiday a national day of service and charged the Corporation for National and Community Service with leading this national effort. This 5 minute video features media coverage about the President and First Lady’s participation, interviews with volunteers, and footage of service projects.

With all of the wedding websites, blogs, reality shows and movies coming out these days, I HAD to talk about it, or shall I say blog about it.  I am so over it! I can understand wanting to have a great time on your wedding day, but a good time has gone from a nice dress with a cake and a smile to $500,000 sometimes million dollar wedding bonanzas! Couples aren’t just jumping the broom and saying their “I do’s” anymore, it almost seems like it has become a game as to who can spend the most money and come up with the most outrageous requests!

Case a point, look at this damn wedding cake…really! It wasn’t enough that she had a cake her own size, it had to look like her and wear the same damn dress!?

This was a “life-size” cake made in her own image standing at over 5ft tall, made up of butterscotch and polymer clay and was an exact replica of the bride in her wedding dress. Its not the amount of money or the distance at which one will go to impress those around them that makes a marriage!

Another case and point, Tiger and Elin’s reported $1.5 million dollar wedding extravaganza. Tiger reportedly went to great lengths to rent out the island’s helicopter and every room in the hotel where they were married to insure complete privacy.

Great wedding picture, top of the line wedding budget…and look at the marriage now. Im not making fun of the couple, (cause that would just be in poor taste) but I do think it is a perfect example of how the wedding day and the money you spend on it has nothing to do with the marriage itself.

I think it is important to stress to my daughter that a happy marriage will not be based on the dress that she picks out, or the money she spends on it. Nor will it be about how tall the cake is or is not, what color the brides maids wear, what shoes she picks out, the names on the napkins, the choice of party favors, the venue she chooses or the food that they eat. It will simply be about her and her partners ability to communicate, compromise and trust one another, all which only require a leap of faith and their ability to use their words, both of which are free.

I got married on the beach with my man, our close friends and no shoes.  It was plain, simple and perfect. The best memory of my wedding was the image of the tracks of sand that my bare feet left on the carpet as I walked down the isle. I have a wedding ring, but dont wear it, I know Im married and so does he. For me it has always been the little things that made the biggest impressions on my life. And that is what I want my daughter to remember when it is her time. Its not about breaking the bank for the wedding day, but rather building a relationship that will endure a lifetime of highs and lows.

And if … or when you make it to your tenth anniversary, splurge on a nice celebration with those that have been with you throughout the years, and dont forget to take pictures.